EFT Helps with Trauma and Disappointments in Life
Our expectations that life should be joyous every day is unrealistic, and sets our minds up for disappointment. Teaching constant happiness as a goal also results in children being less resilient. Conversely, once we overcome a negative situation, we build confidence in tackling similar events. What makes unexpected “downs” in life a challenge is our perception of the event and the inability to overcome the experience or trauma. We download information of how we are to act, behave, respond, perceive and experience events usually through family members and then later through school.
How you respond to negative events depends on how you learnt to deal with these situations. It could be despair, lack of hope, inertia or other unhelpful responses that are more difficult to unlearn. Perhaps you learnt emotional responses such as anger, screaming or tantrums. In reality, these situations are an opportunity to learn and to find strategies for living towards growth and life satisfaction.
Trauma – What Happens to The Body
Our whole physiology changes when we react as if situations are life-threatening. Our autonomic nervous system, the part of the system that works without thinking, changes dramatically. The blood and oxygen goes from organs needed during rest and digestion towards powering our arms and legs to either defend or run from threat. Blood in the frontal cortex of the brain, used for conscious and creative thought, moves towards the back of the brain where quick reflexes reside. Furthermore, the immune system hits pause in favour of getting out of the threatening situation.
When our body is in a constant state of threat, chemicals change from balance to chronic fight/flight-mode leading to health issues such as adrenal burnout, chronic illness, insomnia, slow healing, chronic pain, anxiety, panic disorders, weight gain, digestive disorders, cravings and addictions. Most of the time, these situations are all based on our perception of the event. Whether a deadline gets missed or there is an actual physical crisis, the brain cannot always distinguish the subtleties of perceived threats.
Technology, constant images, news, negative thoughts and every day life are all sources of this constant stream of threat. In Dr. Bruce Lipton’s book and YouTube video, called the Biology of Belief, he discusses how thought alone can change gene expression and therefore a person’s health.
Tips to Overcome Trauma, Stress and Disappointments
Relax the Mind – Many individuals have probably tried more widely known mental relaxation exercises such as yoga, deep relaxation breathing, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), counseling, positive thinking, affirmations, mediation, mindfulness practices and so forth. All of these have been demonstrated to provide relief. However, it can take a long time to make changes in conscious and subconscious thought processes.
Treat the Subconscious – Hypnotherapy and Emotional Freedom Technique are two useful tools. EFT is the one I go to first because it takes less time for treatment and it can be administered by yourself.
EFT focuses on the ‘worry’ and then tapping on a series of acupuncture points along the meridian system. Focussing on the negative thoughts of an event, fear, phobia, craving, addiction, etc whilst tapping changes to mental pathway in the body. EFT it literally “taps” into the subconscious while tapping into the meridian channels discharging the emotions very quickly. If you are specific with your issue and tap on all aspects of the issue, you can release it permanently. An experienced EFT practitioner can help you learn the technique, and then attending a short workshop can give you the skills to continuing helping yourself longterm as well as assisting family members.
Case Study: A New Mother, A Colicky Baby & Post-Natal Depression
A new mother came to me to help her with her newborn baby with colic. Every time the baby cried, which was often, the mother cried as well. She was clearly suffering from post-natal depression. I gently suggested to the mom to come to me so I could help her feel more relaxed and have some control of her emotions. When she was more relaxed, it would allow her to take action, as crying was unhelpful and left persistent feelings of sadness. On her visit, we focussed on her sense of sadness, grief and feelings of being a poor mother whilst tapping on the points.
While guiding her with these feelings she recalled a childhood memory. When she was about 7-years-old, she woke one night to the sound of someone crying. She went into the kitchen and she saw her father sobbing. She was so sad that she could not help him feel better. A few years later her father committed suicide. Now as an adult, she was experiencing the grief of someone she loves crying and not be able to help them again. The trigger, however, was the crying baby. The one-hour session of EFT brought up all these memories, shifted them quickly and she was able to come to terms with having lost him. This created a huge relief and sense of peace and it also allowed her to be able to effectively help her baby by taking action rather than feeling despondent.
EFT is Easy to Learn
EFT allows us to act consciously on our subconscious level to resolve and heal from traumatic events and/or life’s ups and downs. EFT is easy to learn and can be done through a certified practitioner or through some online resources.
About Caroline Rhodes
Caroline is the founder of The Body Group, a highly respected and well established physiotherapy and wellness clinic in Hong Kong. She has introduced the use of Emotional Freedom Technique to help her patients recover from chronic pain and other health issues. She is a master EFT and Matrix Reimprinting trainer, teaching effective science-based tools for eliminating stress and healing from PTSD.